The Habits of Happy People, Part Three.

Here's part three of my happy quest, inspired some other cool person's blog here. These little tidbits are all about the people you surround yourself with and how to share the love. <3

Avoid Social Comparison:

This one is difficult for very insecure people. If you aren't confident in yourself then you'll look to others to see where you fall in. I don't worry about it much. I know that I'm not as good as some, but I'm better than most. That's pretty much where I rank myself when it comes to looks, work, finances, intelligence, everything really. Except relationships. If we're talking about what kind of girlfriend I am, that's a whole different bullet point. I'll get to that when I elaborate on my own addition to the list Personal Mantras.

Choose Friends Wisely:

Incredibly important. This is my second favorite next to Dream Big. Just as misery loves company, happiness is contagious. Surround yourself with happy people and you'll find yourself in a healthier state of mind. Be that happy person and people will gravitate towards you. Reevaluate your relationships and cut out the poisonous personalities. Have a particular frenemy that always makes you feel like shit? Say goodbye and good riddance! Guaranteed you'll feel a huge weight lifted when you're rid of that corrosive "friend".

Never Seek Approval From Others:

I like to follow my moral compass. I feel I've got a pretty solid grasp on right and wrong and I trust my instincts on everything. Looking to someone else to make a decision for you is opening yourself up to getting taken advantage of. Besides, letting others choose for you leads to you making excuses, grudges, self-deprivation, etc. Take ownership, take responsibility, take action. It feels good!

Take the Time to Listen:
I love this one. I have the unique opportunity to meet people from all walks of life (and usually more successful) every day. It's one of my favorite things about my job. And sometimes, my clients will open up to me about everything. And I get 60-90 minutes to pick their brains about their careers, successes, failures, advice, fitness, travel, relationships, politics, anything! I learn something useful from everyone and all it takes is a few open-ended questions. I could listen to them talk for hours because I find all of them so fascinating in their own way. 

Nurture Social Relationships:

I completely and utterly fail at this one. If it weren't for facebook I probably wouldn't even have lasting friendships. I mean, I love my people and I think about them all the time and always wonder what they're up to, but actually picking up a phone? Almost never. But, I could go years without hearing from someone and if they called me in the middle of the night because they got in a huge fight with their boyfriend/girlfriend and they don't have anywhere to go my answer will always be, "I'll be there in 20." I guess that's just the kind of friend I am. I never forget birthdays, but I won't remember to call just to say hello. So! Now that I've confessed my terrible friend flaw, feel free to call me and chat! I don't ignore phone calls. :)


Damn, 9 minutes past my new bedtime. Still working on that!



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